oh the simple joys of children

friends, family, readers...I'm sorry I've been a downer lately. I don't mean to be ms. moaning all the time, but I'm honestly just completely burnt out. not good.

however, today has been quite fun, seriously. long, but fun. I had my two hours of personal time and finally got my hair cut and colored - it was in need of some serious attention. I left looking good and feeling slightly renewed, yet still exhausted.

Ran to the chiropractor, got my back adjusted and felt a little better again.

Ran to the grocery store, picked up all the essentials for a great beach bonfire hot dog and s'mores party and then went and picked up the kids. yes, that's right. the kids.

It's my bosses anniversary tomorrow, so I offered to babysit overnight so he could actually have night off and enjoy a little bit of relaxation with his wife, away from crazy crazy crazy beyond stressful work, away from his hectic full-time job (that of being the Bishop) and being a loving father of 5 beautiful children. I'm exhausted with my life, I can't even imagine how he feels. so I'm a pushover and am spending my weekend sorta still working??? it's really just serving though, and I feel good.

his 4 kids are spending the night (and are soundly sleeping as I write this) with me at my place by the beach. it's awesome. we had a great time at the beach. yummy hot dogs, and fruits and veggies, and s'mores. yum. yum. yum. then we came back, popped in a good disney flick, changed into jammies and off to bed they went. GOOD. KIDS. holy cow. i hope I can raise such good kids someday. i love them!

their youngest is named maggie, she's four, all about pink and was a little concerned that her sweater didn't match her shirt, but spits out the funniest things I've ever heard. she's quite precocious for being only 4. i love it. she also has just been putting things into perspective for me all night. it's amazing. she was quite determined to roast her own marshmallow, and then proceeded to light it on fire multiple times. clapped her hands and cheered "yeah I cooked my marshmallow! I lit it on fire Beth! How cool is that?!!!" then she ate it like a champ, said she liked the crunchy taste and burnt about 5 more marshmallows. or when I forgot the ketchup at home, she cheered "yeah you forgot the ketchup! we can put extra pickles on it then!" like literally nothing in the world can get her down. she's one of the happiest, most cheerful little kids I've ever met, and I mean that. I can't help but smile every time I look at her. and this was her first time really meeting me or spending time with me, and she's attached to my leg. she just loves so openly. we're best friends now by the way. she might not even want to go home tomorrow.   ;)  jk

oh, and to put that extra little cherry on top - a friend of mine that I met a couple of months before my mission is getting baptized in a week. that is worthy of an entire post, so I'll save it for later. but his phone call made my night, my week, maybe even my month, maybe even a long long time. but like I said, another day another story.

Now it's 10:23, the kids are asleep and I'm heading off to bed soon. let's just hope they sleep in cuz it's saturday.   :)  cuz I'm still exhausted, and could use a good 10 hours of sleep tonight.

longest. week. ever. (or one of them...)

remember last week, Tuesday to be precise, when I had a major  meltdown here on my blog......I thought the week was gonna get better...but this week just got worse. I'm done. Completely burnt out. The end. I can't handle it anymore. I repeat, the end.

That is all. 

And the verdict is in....

Ok, I finally did it. After months of researching and living on craigslist, recycler.com, autotrader, etc. I finally bought a car. Here it is, a sassy little 2004 Mazda 3s: 

It may look a little average and boring on the outside, just a normal gray sedan, but this little car has got some serious pep and personality. The inside looks like it's brand new, and is black and red checkered...sounds ugly but it's actually super cute and sporty. Like I said, sassy is a great word for this car. It has a 4cylinder, 2.3L engine, so it has great pick-up and drives super smooth, without feeling like it's struggling like a Civic with a 1.8L engine that takes everything it's got just to get to freeway speeds (which is also why it gets awesome mileage), but I'm happy that I get to ENJOY driving my car, and still get good mileage (30mpg on the freeway, not 38 like a Civic). Check out the inside....

Yeah for a new (used) car! And I even feel ok about the price. I only spent $6400, so not too shabby for a solid car that is in perfect shape.  :)  

A Little Slice of Heaven

I'm constantly trying to convince all my loved ones that San Clemente, California is a little hidden slice of heaven here on Earth. For some reason, none of them ever seem to believe me until after years and years I somehow manage to drag them down here. As another reminder to all of you, I say it again, San Clemente is a little piece of heaven.

It is mid-January, and has consistently been in the high 70s - low 80's all month. Not to invoke jealousy or any other bitter feelings toward me, but just to spread the happiness and my sheer joy of this weekend, I include the following for you - so that wherever you may be, and whatever miserable (or not so miserable) winter gloom you are enduring, your heart may be lightened.  :) 

Sunset tonight, Sunday:

Sunset yesterday night, Saturday:

Sunset Friday night:

Ok, I'll stop with the sunset pictures. And to think, I'm actually having a hard time finding a roommate for my extra bedroom??? Ridiculous huh.

These daily reminders are always such tender mercies, gifts of love and life from the Lord, Him telling me day in and day out how much He loves me, how He is aware of me, and is always with me.

Last night I was out on my porch watching the ocean and I was feeling rather lonely. I ache for genuine companionship in my life. I have good friends, yes. I have a loving family, yes. But I really do most sincerely desire someone to share life with. I admit it freely. It's no secret. Anywho - as I was sitting there watching the waves, the sky was perfectly clear, the air was crisp, and the moon was shining brightly across the ocean. As those somewhat sad feelings of loneliness started to grow, I noticed the moonlight reflecting in bright silver flashes across the face of the wave (the front side of the wave before it crashes). The flashes only reflected right before the wave would crash, and would catch my eye like when the reflection of someone's watch face is blinding you.

It was as if Heavenly Father was saying to me, "Look, I'm here. I'm right here, in ALL things, even in the turbulence of the crashing waves. They are under my control. Sometimes you only see me as a brief flash in the turbulence, but I am always there. I am always with you, each day, in everything." It was a beautiful, precious moment of peace and comfort from my loving Father.

So, wherever you may be tonight, or whatever situation in life you may find yourself - whether it be on the beautiful coastline soaking up the rays of sunshine, or surrounded by the cold winter storms that seem to engulf us - I know that our most loving, merciful Father is in it all. In all things, even in the turbulence of life. Don't forget it, even if we only seem to catch a quick flash of it sometimes.

yes I'm blogging from my cellphone

I just bought a droid phone and it's crazy. right now as I speak, yes speak, my phone is typing everything that I say. Hello 21st century. But almost cooler than that is the swipe function where you just run your finger over the letters and it's like playing connect the dots, which is awesome because I'm really struggling with this whole touch screen thing so far.

Anyway not much to report these days, just lots of work, meetings, and serving - and not enough play lately. Sweet dreams.

Love,
B

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Christmas. Cruise. Craziness. Coolest Family Ever.

A brief update, pictures to follow......

December 18 - Fly to Orlando, FL. It was freezing, like in the 30's, felt like Utah. So cold!

December 19 - Board the world's largest cruise ship, with 4500 other passengers. Complete with ice skating rink, miniature golf course, rock climbing wall, on ship surfing thing-a-ma-jig, 17 decks, way too much food, movie theater, multiple dance clubs, multiple restaurants, insanity. Word.

December 20 - Day at sea. I think I literally fell asleep Sunday night (the 19th) and slept til Monday afternoon. I must've needed it.

December 21 - Rough water, so trip to CocoCay, Bahamas cancelled. 2nd day at Sea. More sleeping, only this time outside by the pool, in the sunshine. Also read 2 books. Sweet. Oh, and I totally ate it on the wet pool deck. My knee was the size of a football and currently still looks like a nasty eggplant. 

December 22 - Visit to St. Maarten island, a Dutch/French colony. Beautiful beaches. Fun shopping. And ridiculously fun rides on a banana boat with my sibs and bro-in-law. 

December 23 - Visit to St. Thomas, part of the US Virgin Islands. We spent the day at a beautiful private beach called Secret Harbor. Fantastic, soft white sand, amazing snorkeling with turtles and tropical fish, and large wild iguanas that kept trying to run across our towels, nearly giving me multiple heart attacks. They're kind of ugly scary looking creatures. 

December 24 - Another peaceful day at sea. More reading, more sleeping, more laying in the sun, mini golfing, games with the family, and just good times.

December 25 - Merry Christmas! Our final day at sea. Lots of relaxing, dressing up for a fancy Christmas dinner, sharing time with family, and mass caroling with 3500 other passengers. Pretty awesome.

December 26 - Sad day...cruise was over. Got back to Orlando - even colder than it was before. At least I was heading back to sunny California! 

It was a peaceful Christmas holiday with my entire family. It was my sister-in-law's first time on a plane, her first time in the ocean, first time on a boat, etc. What a blast!

Pictures to come soon.  :)

Happy Holidays!

C.O.T.

Circle. Of. Trust.

As a fair warning, this post is likely going to be very random, emotional, and completely nonsensical to most of you. I apologize for that. But tonight I just need to write, and get some of it out.

I miss having a best friend. I miss the love, the communication, the trust, the bond, having that person to depend upon and that person you want to talk to and tell them about your day. It's hard to go from having that special connection on a daily basis, to living alone, in a new place, not knowing anybody. It takes a lot of time to build meaningful, trusting relationships. And sometimes in the process of that time, you get lonely. And I don't mean the kind of lonely where you just miss having people around, I mean the kind of deep, inner, aching loneliness for the most sincere kind of human connection. I miss that.

And it's hard to go from having that, to having none of it. Add on top of that emptiness the fact that your family is completely falling apart, and everybody that you love more than life itself is a disaster, and my heart aches more than I can bare sometimes - such as tonight. 

I deserve to be loved. I am lovable. I love myself. I love God. And I love others. Deeply. Passionately. Compassionately. I have a world of goodness, gifts, service and light to share, but I feel as though not a single person really cares or recognizes any of it. All I want is for somebody else to see how great I am and just love my stinkin guts.

I miss Kristy Kadish. I miss my Sue-bear. I miss Neeley-chka. I miss Miss Katie. I miss Mirm. I miss my C-Monster. I miss Hansenita. I miss Grace. I miss my family being healthy and happy and laughing. I miss hugs, real hugs. And tender hand squeezes letting you know that it's all going to be alright. I miss my 17 year old body. I miss sleep. I miss feeling well rested. I miss thinking that finals were the hardest thing ever and the worst week every 4 months. I miss knowing that after finals, there was a light at the end of the tunnel. I miss wanting to take a real risk by letting your heart go to another human being - but I'm tired of being heart broken over and over and over. 

I'm tired of selling myself short. I'm tired of plowing through 10 hour days at work, watching families destroy each other through the evil and selfishness of divorce. I'm tired of giving giving giving all the time, and putting on a pretty good act as if my bucket is always overflowing. 

Sometimes our gifts are part of our struggles, weird huh. 

I'm exhausted, and clearly emotional. I'll get over my self pity, but I just needed to spill over a little bit. Sorry for the personal indulgence. I'm off to bed, tomorrow will be bright again.

Loves. 

B